Married woman should not have male confidant

A reader sent a note asking Indus: "married woman in the end that should not have male confidant?" For this question, a matter of opinion. The so-called male confidant, refers to the relationship between men and women close friend, this friend is more than the average male friends close, but not lovers. In other words, somewhat similar to a woman's male girlfriends. Thus, the question arises: in the end there is no pure friendship between a married woman and a male friend? This is a decision that should not have married a woman important prerequisite Blue Yan confidant. Because if a married woman with a male confidant mishandled this scale and measured, then the male confidant destruction of marriage is likely to be a small three men. 

Relationship is undeniable, between men and women is very subtle. Especially married women and men in the process of interaction, we must grasp the scale and sense of proportion. Sometimes, the further is the cliffs, then take a step backward. Whether man or woman, whether single or married, everyone wants to have a male confidant or confidante. In this world, most people just pass by. Lifetime, to encounter one or two friends, simply goodly thing. In general, the relationship between men and women is limited to pure both still single state. Because no two people love and marriage bondage, may be more freely exchange ideas with each other. Of course, does not rule out the two thus creating the spark of love. So, sometimes, friends and love one step. 

However, when a woman married, or when a man married, the relationship between the two might not initially so pure a. Especially when a woman has been married, she wants to worry about things too much. Women sometimes put special emphasis on the individual's reputation see. Woman after marriage, most of them will automatically filter out a lot of entertainment and communication, all unconsciously family-centered. Married woman very sad thing is, they get married after extremely easy to completely lose yourself in the world of housewives, in addition to her husband is the child, just not her own. So, a woman even after marriage, it should have its own independent interpersonal circle, including male confidant. 

But, when a married woman dealing with a male confidant, to maintain a good attitude, do not give male confidant bad idea or let you produce ambiguous emotions. Married women should confidant as the spice of life, and not be able confidant as the protagonist of married life. Married women do not reverse the primary and secondary. Married women also not necessary to lay individual's private life to the Blue Yan friend to talk to, on the one hand will cause some kind of security risk, if one day you and confidant turn when male confidant may put you on the in the past as a tool for revenge he complained of; on the other hand, male confidant has no obligation to act as your emotional advisor, your private life unavoidably blanket. 

In short, a married woman can and should have a male confidant, the premise is to grasp the appropriate scale and sense of proportion. Indus has said that although pure friendship is difficult to occur between adult married men and women, but as long as each other are holding a sincere attitude, correct their behavior, do not play ambiguous, then between a man and a woman can still have a pure friendship between men and women, do not have to share with each other and enjoy each other have the warmth and peace of mind, always be sincere concern and good wishes to each other. True friend, even if separated from each other for a long time not seen nor held a grudge, one day see each other again, even if no words are not embarrassed.